maintaining connection in times of grief

It is common for people experiencing grief to encounter changes in their attitudes and feelings towards their intimate relationships, both sexual and non-sexual.

The good news? Most relationships recover to the same level of intimacy they had before the period of instability and distress brought on by grief.

For some, healing through grief means contending with reduced sexual desire, which can lead to you feeling out of sync with your partner. Know that, for many people, spending quality time together in a non-sexual way is an important part of maintaining a deep connection. Intimacy, after all, means much more than just sex.

While it’s perfectly okay for you or your partner to seek solitude while navigating feelings of loss, it’s important to keep communication channels open. Ask your partner questions like ‘how are you feeling right now?’ and, ‘what can I do to support you during this time?’ to foster compassionate communication. 

For others, sexual feelings may intensify, which can lead to feelings of confusion, and even, shame. It’s important to remember that grief can show up differently for everyone. However you navigate this time, sit with your feelings, and trust that you are on the right path.

Everybody experiences grief at some point throughout their lifetime. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier, but maintaining connection with others can help. Navigating difficult times with a partner can even lead to deeper, more meaningful connections. 


It’s OK not to be OK. If you need immediate help in Australia:
Contact
Lifeline: 13 11 14 or Kids Helpline: 1800 551 800


“The only cure for grief is to grieve.”

- E Grollman